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Let Me Try

It’s not about how long we live but how well we live.

There are so many things that we are told not to do in life: Don’t smoke, don’t drink coffee, stay away from fatty foods and keep as active as possible.

But where is the balance?  To live a truly Holistic life you need to find that balance.  Yes, I drink coffee, my exercise consists of running around after my two wild boys and constantly going from A to B doing jobs for the centre, I eat red meat and I am not Phoebe from friends, although I do sing like her.  But I am for the most part happy, healthy-ish but mostly I am content with my life which I believe makes me complete.

If I were to believe everything I have seen online, on peoples beautiful posed Instagram feed, on the front cover of nearly all the magazines, on numerous online articles about a tablet to cure this and that, stay away from all medications, macro, micro diets, to supplement or not supplement and so and so on, I should be 6 feet under by now.

I believe that good health and happiness go way beyond the physical, you must embrace the beautiful mess that life is, warts and all, and learn to be the best version of yourself on any given day.

Life is trial and error.  You fail and you fall, then you get up and try again.  Life is a journey and we learn a lot from the bumpy roads.  I am still on that road.

My perspective on what a healthy person is:

A happy healthy person doesn’t wish their life away, or dwell on past events.  They are able to love and to be loved, they have strong relationships but love their own company and independence, so if that love were to leave, they are strong enough to make the most of their new lives.

They know how important it is to forgive.  Holding onto grudges and hurt feelings only affects the person who holds onto them.  You don’t have to be loved by everyone or try to please everyone, this is an impossible task and the quickest way to pile on layers of self-doubt and misery.

They have a realistic self-awareness.  In other words, they can see their own weaknesses and their own shortcomings, without trying to change the people around them.  Working on self-improvement is a lifelong challenge that they accept with open arms.

They can laugh at themselves.  If you can see the funny and incongruous side of life, even during stressful moments, it can be to your advantage.  Expecting yourself to be perfect is the quickest way to discontent. Do the best you can—which may or may not be good enough—but that’s all you can do.  Accept it, smile, move on and give yourself a break. Stop worrying!

They are not judgmental.   They walk their own path and learn from their own mistakes, never reminding other people of theirs.

They don’t complain.  There’s much to complain about today.  And there are times when we need to get things off of our chests to keep from exploding, and that’ okay.   However, constantly complaining and never trying to fix the issues is not a habit of healthy people.

This is my take on how life should be, as this is life it is not always possible.  I embrace this fact and every single day my mantra is “Let me try”.

 

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