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Sunflower

I’m posting this picture of my little sunflower for #worldsuicidepreventiondayDo you see the flawed leaves, the dark spots, the small size?Or.Do you see the bright yellow petals beginning to open, how tall it stands despite its attacked leaves from outside pests, how despite not looking like a Van Gogh painting it still knows that is a proud sunflower and will always look to the sun.Don’t let anyone make you feel like your not the best that you can be and always face towards the sun, stand tall and bloom.It’s ok and you’re not alone.Claire🌻☀️#itsok #youok #support #sunflowers #dublin #talk #youarenotalone #standtall

Smells like home

Smells like home…

written by: Claire Kenny 08/09/2018


For as long as I can remember, my mother always had a bottle of essential oils ready for nearly all of our minor ailments when growing up.
When it came to exam times, interviews even the debs, mam would just pop into her wooden box of magic and make up blends that we could apply to our pulse points or even to our clothes. Our house always smelled safe.
Some of these blends even today remind of feeling safe and secure rather than the stress I was going through at the time of applying them.
Aromatherapy is the practice of inhaling the scent of essential oils to improve your mental and physical well-being.
One theory of how they work is that by stimulating the smell receptors in your nose, they can send messages to your nervous system. They are also thought to have a subtle effect on the body’s chemical and energy systems. Because of this, aromatherapy is often used as a natural remedy to relieve anxiety and stress.
Essential oils must be diluted with a carrier oil before they’re applied to the skin. This reduces your risk of irritation. For adults, every 15 drops of essential oil should be diluted with 1 ounce of carrier oil. For children, the ratio is 3 to 6 drops of essential oil to 1 ounce of carrier oil. Some popular carrier oils are almond, coconut, and jojoba.
Essential oils should never be ingested, despite claims on the internet that suggest otherwise. There’s not enough research on any one essential oil to prove it’s safe to swallow. Each essential oil is very different, and some are toxic.

Below is a list of some of my favourite essentials oil for anxiety and stress.

Valerian

Valerian is an herb that has been used since ancient times. It’s thought to contain compounds that promote sleep and calm nerves. It can have a mild sedative effect on the body.
How to use: Add a few drops of valerian oil to an aromatherapy diffuser and inhale. Ideally use Valerian at home in the evening as it may make you sleepy or relaxed.

Lavender

Lavender is one of the most popular aromatherapy oils. Lavender aromatherapy is thought to calm anxiety by impacting the limbic system, the part of the brain that controls emotions.
How to use: Enjoy a relaxing lavender bath by combining several drops of lavender oil with a teaspoon of carrier oil or an unscented bath gel. Stir the mixture into warm bathwater just before entering.

Jasmine

Jasmine oil has a gorgeous floral scent. Inhaling jasmine oil can promote a sense of well-being and romance. Unlike some other essential oils used for anxiety, jasmine oil is thought to calm the nervous system without causing sleepiness.
How to use: Inhale jasmine oil directly from the bottle or allow the scent to fill the room through a diffuser.

Sweet basil

Sweet basil essential oil comes from the same herb that you use in cooking. In aromatherapy, it’s thought to help calm the mind and relieve stress.
The phenol compounds in sweet basil oil helped relieve anxiety. These compounds were found to be less sedating than the anxiety medication diazepam.
How to use: Add several drops of sweet basil oil to a room diffuser or inhale through an inhaler tube.

Bergamot

Bergamot oil comes from bergamot oranges and has an invigorating citrus scent. Bergamot helps relieve anxiety and improve mood.
When used topically, bergamot may increase sun sensitivity.
How to use: Place a few drops of bergamot oil onto a cotton ball or handkerchief. Inhale the aroma two to three times to help relieve anxiety.

Chamomile

Chamomile is well-known for its relaxing and sedating properties and intoxicating scent. There isn’t much research on chamomile essential oil for anxiety.
How to use: Massage diluted chamomile oil into your skin or add it to a warm bath.

Rose

Rose essential oil is extracted from rose petals. Roses have an enchanting floral scent known to relax the senses.
Using a rose aromatherapy footbath can reduce anxiety in pregnant women during labour. Not be used unless in labour.
How to use: Soak your feet in a basin filled with warm water and diluted Rose essential oil. You can also add rose oil to your favourite non-scented moisturizer or shea butter and massage into skin.

Vetiver

Vetiver may be less known than other essential oils, but it’s not less effective. Vetiver oil comes from the grassy vetiver plant native to India. It has a sweet, earthy scent and is used as an aphrodisiac.
How to use: Enjoy a relaxing massage with diluted vetiver oil, or add it to a diffuser.

Ylang Ylang

Floral-scented Ylang Ylang is used in aromatherapy to promote relaxation. Inhaling a blend of Ylang Ylang, lavender, and bergamot lowered stress and anxiety levels, blood pressure, heart rate, and serum cortisol.
How to use: Apply diluted Ylang Ylang to your skin, add to a room diffuser, or inhale directly.

Frankincense

Frankincense oil is made from the resin of the Boswellia tree. It has a musky, sweet aroma that’s thought to ease anxiety. A beautiful massage blend of frankincense, lavender, and bergamot can improve anxiety, depression, and sometimes even pain in people with terminal cancer.
How to use: Massage diluted frankincense oil onto your hands or feet. You can also add frankincense to a diffuser.

Clary sage

Clary sage is different from the common herb used to make stuffing at Thanksgiving. It has a woody, herbal odour. Due to its calming abilities, it’s often used as an aphrodisiac.
Clary sage can ease tension and help control cortisol levels in women. Cortisol is known as the stress hormone. High cortisol levels may increase your risk of anxiety and depression.
How to use: Inhale clary sage oil directly when you feel anxious, or massage the diluted oil into your skin. Do not use clary sage while pregnant as it can cause contractions.

Patchouli

Musky patchouli is used in Ayurvedic medicine to relieve anxiety, stress, and depression. It’s often combined with other essential oils such as lavender. Patchouli is thought to promote calmness and relaxation, though most evidence is anecdotal.
How to use: To relieve anxiety, inhale patchouli oil directly or add it diluted to a warm bath or room diffuser.

Geranium

Geranium oil is distilled from the geranium plant.
For women in the first stage of labour, inhaling geranium oil effectively reduced their anxiety during labour. It may also help decrease diastolic blood pressure.
How to use: Apply a few drops geranium oil to a cotton ball and waft under your nose a few times.

Lemon balm

Lemon balm has a fresh, uplifting aroma. In aromatherapy, it has a soothing, restorative effect. Most success stories on inhaling lemon balm for anxiety are anecdotal. It may also improve sleep.
How to use: Lemon balm is a great oil to add to a diffuser to add scent to an entire room. You can also inhale it directly.

Marjoram

Also known as oregano, sweet marjoram is thought to calm nervousness and anxiety. It’s also used to ease headaches, a common symptom of anxiety.
How to use: Dilute marjoram with a carrier oil and rub into your temples. You may also apply to your wrists or add to a diffuser.

Fennel

Fennel is best known as a cooking spice. It has an anise aroma and is used to treat many anxiety side effects such as digestive problems. It may also help relieve anxiety that’s related to menopause and other conditions.
Using fennel essential oil has been known to help menopause side effects such as anxiety, hot flashes, sleep problems, and depression.
How to use: Add diluted fennel oil to a warm bath to help relax your body and your mind.

What to do before use:

Essential oils may cause an allergic reaction when used topically. To avoid this, it’s important to do a patch test on a small area of skin before use.
Place a few drops of diluted essential oil on your wrist or elbow, and cover the spot with a bandage. Check the area in 24 hours. If you experience any redness, rash, or itching, the oil isn’t safe for you to use on your skin.
Essential oils aren’t safe for everyone. Talk to your doctor before using essential oils if you’re pregnant, breastfeeding, or have an underlying medical condition. You should also consult your doctor before using essential oils on children.
Remember: Not all essential oils are created equal, so you should only buy them from a reputable source.

Scalp relaxation techniques

Relaxation is something most of us don’t really know of, specifically because of the fast-paced lives we lead. Try out these relaxation techniques for yourself and see how it leaves you feeling great in almost no time at all.

SIDE SCALP MANEUVER

Relax your scalp by doing a side scalp laxity exercise, this is a great way to rid yourself of all that stress. Sit upright in a chair and place your hands on the sides of your head such that each palm is above each ear. Straighten your fingers, but make sure you do not clasp them together. Slowly begin moving your scalp up and down, keeping in mind not to move your fingers. Move your scalp for about two minutes before removing your hands. Relax for about 10 seconds before repeat this exercise for about 10 times.

HEAD KNOCK MASSAGE

Massaging your scalp helps to increase the blood circulation to your hair follicles. This helps in the prevention of hair loss while improving your overall hair health. Try the head knock massage, which is an ancient Indonesian technique. Stand straight with your feet about shoulder-width apart and be sure to continue breathing normally throughout this exercise. Begin lowering your upper body by bending ever so slightly at the waist, allowing your spine to or curve. Bend up till the point where you find your head slightly below your waist level. Remember to position your legs straight and curve your fingers to the knuckle. Use the knuckle of your index finger to gently tap your scalp with your knuckle. Use your other knuckles as well. Now, cover as much of your scalp as you can – the front, back, sides and lobe area of your scalp, while gently tapping the hair area. Perform this knuckle massage for about 30 seconds. Stop and return your body to the standing position. Relax for about 10 seconds before repeating this scalp massage exercise while standing up.

CIRCULAR MASSAGE

Say goodbye to hair loss with this circular massage exercise. Start in an upright position seated comfortably and pour in a few drops of rosemary essential oil onto your scalp. You may also use vitamin E oil. Now, use the tips of your fingers to massage your scalp. Start on the right side of your scalp. Be sure to work small sections of your scalp and use circular motions for the first three to five minutes. Reverse this direction and work in counter-clockwise circular motions for the next two minutes. Be sure to massage your entire scalp area up to the hairline. Try not to use your fingernails as this is likely to damage your scalp. Massage your scalp for five minutes daily.

INDIAN HEAD MASSAGE

This treatment focuses on the blood circulation in the head, neck, and shoulders. A great deal of pressure is used in this technique, but it isn’t painful at all. This massage is best carried out by a professional. So give us a call at 018310888 or email info@riverholistic.ie and we can help ease all of the daily tension away.

Meditation is good for your heart health

In the immensely stressful lives that we are living in the present times, it becomes imperative to include practices such as meditation and yoga in our lifestyle. Apart from reducing stress and generating immense positivity, meditation helps in keeping our heart healthy as well. People who meditate regularly are lesser prone to risks of heart attack and stroke. Meditation can produce changes in the brain activity and can also control heart rate, blood pressure, breathing rate and release of cortisol hormone in response to stress.

What is meditation?
Meditation means awareness. Anything which is done with awareness is meditation. It is not a technique but a way of life. Meditation is referred to a stage of consciousness when the mind is free of scattered thoughts and ideas. It is considered as a practice which transforms the mind. It helps in improving concentration, helps in getting more clarity, provides emotional positivity and helps a person have a calm way of looking at the nature of things.

Engaging in meditation enables a person to learn about his/her patterns and habits of mind. It helps a person cultivate new and more positive ways of living. A nourished and positive thinking mind can further transform into extremely peaceful and energised state of mind. Inculcating the habit of meditation in your lifestyle can make you a more enlightened person personally and publically.

meditation
Regular meditation can make you a more enlightened person

There are various kinds of meditation which provides several physiological benefits. Mindful meditation helps you focus efficiently in the present and accept it without any judgement. Guided meditation, for instance, a kind of meditation which uses mental images, helps you relax and calm down. Transcendental medication is a kind of meditation which uses repeated sounds and phrases in order to clear your mind.

These meditations need to be done for at least 10 minutes in a day in order to get physiological benefits from them.

How meditation helps your heart?
The National Institute of Mental Health states that around 19% adults experience anxiety within the past year. Around 31% adults were reported to suffer from anxiety disorder at some point in their lifetime. We all experience stress in one way or the other. Excessive stress can contribute to high blood pressure, high cholesterol levels, overeating and physical inactivity. All these factors contribute to increased risks of stroke and heart disease.

Mindful meditation helps in reducing both stress and anxiety. Meditating regularly gives a boost to the immunity, eases inflammation in chronic conditions and reduces pain. Those who meditate regularly experience increase in gray matter in the brain, have improved levels of focus and concentration, reduced levels of stress and more will power.

Mindful meditation, when combined with cognitive behavioral therapy can thus be considered as an effective treatment for anxiety.

We have a number of one to one therapies here at the centre from Psychotherapy , HypnotherapyAcupuncture  to name but a few.

We also a number of classes that are a perfect introduction to meditation and mindfulness along with weekly Yoga,

For a full list of our weekly classes just follow HERE… 

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Simple ways to de-stress at work

Simple ways to de-stress at work

Even if you love your job, it can still leave you feeling stressed. Many causes of work related stress can be anticipated however, enabling you to enjoy a more relaxed day.

Stress in the office builds up when you have a heavy workload, long hours and tight deadlines, conflict with colleagues or your boss, or a lack of support or advice. Unpleasant working conditions such as crowding, constant interruptions, noise pollution or not enough natural sunlight, may also contribute to work-related stress.

Recognising the problem:

It’s often hard to accept that your own attitudes contribute to stress at work. If you are an over-achiever, you may have a calendar crammed far too full of activities. If you find it hard to say “no”, you may be over-extended and overwhelmed. If you are perfectionist you may find it hard to delegate work to other people. These sources of stress can be overcome by managing your time better, being more assertive and improving your communication skills.

Planning your stress-free work day

1. Have a stress free start:

Make sure you start the day in the right frame of mind. Get up early to give yourself plenty of time to get ready. Running for a bus at the last minute, trying to do your hair, find your right shoe that’s always never beside the left one and arriving 30 seconds before that vital meeting starts, are all sure-fire ways to begin the day feeling flustered.

2. Keep your tasks in perspective:

Break your day into a series of manageable tasks. Instead of thinking of the day as a whole, look at it as 10 separate tasks, and place them in the order of importance. If you complete nine of them, not having time to complete the last one, probably won’t matter.

3. Be honest of your capabilities:

Learn to say “no”. Be assertive about your needs, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Your colleagues may not realise how much work you have – if you don’t have time to take on another task, they will understand. Don’t be afraid to delegate if you don’t have time to deal with it yourself.

4. Make sure you take your breaks:

Have a proper lunch break – away from the desk. Eating healthy food rather than just snacks will help to keep your stress levels down. Also, taking a break allows you to step back from your problems and will perhaps enable you see a new way of dealing with them.

5. Admit your mistakes:

Take responsibility for your errors and admit to them as soon as they happen. There is nothing more stressful than worrying about when your boss is going to find out about your slip up. Mistakes happen; being honest about it will go a long way to making amends.

6. Tidy your desk:

At the end of each day, take 5 minutes to tidy your desk. That way, you will know exactly where everything is in the morning and won’t waste time trying to remember where you left that memo or file.

7. Take credit when it’s due:

You have the right to feel happy and proud of yourself. Stressed people often don’t take the time to feel pride and pleasure in their own achievements. Tell your colleagues when you’re proud of yourself, and invite them to celebrate.

April Newsletter

We hope you all had a wonderful Easter and enjoyed the chocolate feast. If you need some detox and relaxation, you know where we are. We have so much on this April & May, I’m bursting to tell you.

It’s exam season coming up, which can be a pressurised time for both those taking exams and family members supporting them! We know, it’s like you are taking the exams too! We have lots of support to offer during much needed rest breaks, from message, reiki, reflexology to acupuncture. All available to nurture your body and soul and have you bouncing back to the study desk.

To our wonderful clients who made March a joy to be holistic therapists, we look forward to welcoming you back in April. To those who have yet to visit us, we look forward to welcoming you to your new holistic home.

For all you therapists out there who have taken a career break and want to re hone your skills, we have refresher workshops in reflexology and massage coming up in April.

So until the next time.
See you soon

Claire xx

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Holistic Therapies Course

Have you ever thought of a new extremely rewarding career as a Holistic Therapist or would you like to add on some wonderful, fully approved and recognised, holistic therapy courses to your list of treatments… The following courses can be done as a package (at a reduced rate) or studied individually. Please feel free to get in touch for more information or check out: www.holistictherapiesireland.com You’ll never regret it 

(Benefit from an amazing €125 discount off the total cost if all three courses are booked. All three together reduced to €550)

DIPLOMA IN INDIAN HEAD MASSAGE
Three Day Intensive Training Course in Indian Head Massage (Champissage) with Barbara McAteer(Accredited Tutor from The London Centre of Indian Champissage Intl.)
Indian Head Massage (Champissage) includes massage of the upper back, neck, shoulders, scalp and face. The body relaxes, tension is released, aches and pains melt away – and you don’t even have to leave your chair! It improves scalp circulation, which promotes hair strength & growth. It also promotes clearer thinking and higher levels of concentration and can provide relief from headaches, migraine, sinus problems eyestrain and insomnia.
The aim of the course is to provide a comprehensive grounding in the theoretical basis and practical application of Indian Champissage (Head Massage). Students will be able to use the technique as a principal or subsidiary part of their professional practice. (Course fee: €350 plus exam fee)
NATURAL FACIAL
One day Certified course
Hands on Training is a recognised organisation that offers courses registered with the CMA (Complementary Medical Association)
On this popular course you will learn a truly natural facial treatment, including cleanse, tone, warm compress, face pack and specialised face lifting massage sequence using plant based oils, creams, gels and aromatic waters. You will also learn how to formulate some wonderful all natural skincare. The products used contain no potentially harmful substances such as artificial preservatives or chemicals such as parabens or SLS and are readily available from several suppliers, or even your own kitchen (eg honey, avocado). The course fee includes a starter pack of products (some you will make on the course) so you can immediately start using your new skills. (Course fee: €175 incls. product kit)

EAR CANDLING
One day Certified course
Hands on Training is a recognised organisation that offers courses registered with the CMA (Complementary Medical Association)
This fascinating therapy has gained popularity in recent years as we seek natural forms of healthcare. Ear Candling is a gentle, non-invasive therapy that is easy to perform and beneficial to receive. It is soothing and helpful for conditions experienced by many of us – such as headaches, compacted ear wax, sinus problems, tinnitus, pressure problems and much more. It is also a very relaxing therapy in its own right and helpful with the treatment of stress. On this wonderful course you’ll learn how to do a full ear candling session properly and also be taught a lovely sinus release face massage routine which feels wonderful after an ear candling session. (Course fee: €150)

For further Information or Booking just contact Barbara on 087 220 5656

Aromatherapy for your Memory

Aromatherapy for Waking your mind.

Modern life often overloads your mind with information and causes mental fatigue.

Refresh your cognitive faculties with stimulating aromatherapy oils.

 

 

 

The most common causes of mental fatigue are overwork and stress, which can make your mind feel deadened by too much stimulation.  This often results from studying for exams, working long hours, a chaotic home life, or just performing tasks.

Temporary solutions:
Apart from taking regular breaks to avoid overworking your mind, essential oils can help ensure you stay focused and do not overload yourself.  These should only be used in short term, for when you need immediate relief.  Long term, you need to consider other factors such as getting enough sleep, exercise and taking time out.  The best ways to use oils to awaken your mind are through inhalation, vaporisers and applying to pulse points.

Blending Oils for waking your mind.

All of these blends should be made using 35ml of the base oil of your choice and later dispatched into easy-to-carry bottles.

Overcoming Mental Fatigue:

2 drops Basil

2 drops peppermint

2 drops rosemary

4 drops cypress

Like everyone, you’ll experience periods in your life when you have to apply yourself to the max and your mind becomes mentally fatigued.  As work is often unavoidable, you have to take steps to keep your mind fresh and alert

1.       Steam inhalation is a good way to do this, as it invigorates you and gets the oils into your system quickly.  You’ll get the full benefits of their effects as soon as possible.

2.       When you are away from home put a few drops of the blend on a tissue or apply to your pulse pints when you need fast relief.

Revision Blend:

5 drops lime

2 drops rosemary

3 drops frankincense

Studying for exams is a very taxing process, especially as you get older and lose the habit of study.  Revision requires mental alertness and the ability to maintain focused concentration; using the revision blend while studying will help you to maintain mental alertness.

1.       A vaporiser will keep the atmosphere in your study environment fresh and its fragrance will continually stimulate your mind, encouraging you to pass your exams.

2.       On the actual day of the exam, take a small bottle of revision blend to apply to your pulse points when you start to feel tired.

Stimulating your Mind:

3 drops lemon

2 drops sage

3 drops geranium

2 drops frankincense

When you are feeling ill or overworked your mind tends to slow down and needs stimulation. By combining the ‘stimulating your mind’ blend with massage, you can make yourself feel more alert and avoid storing stress in your upper body.

1.       Massage the blend gently into your neck, shoulders and temples.  If you are at work, apply it to your pulse points at the wrists.  As you write or type the action will help the oil to circulate and stimulate your mind faster.

2.       If you have your own office space you might want to vaporiser to keep the atmosphere fresh.

Jetlag Blend:

1 drop eucalyptus

2 drops grapefruit

3 drops lemon

2 drops geranium

2 drops cypress

After a long flight you may feel mentally exhausted.  The best way to deal with this is to allow your body to rest and recover naturally.

1.       A relaxing bath is an ideal way to enjoy the beneficial effects of the essential oils.  The time out will also give your mind the opportunity to rest and clear out ‘bust thoughts’.

2.       You can use the blend as a preventative measure by applying to your pulse points while travelling, to minimise the effects of jetlag.

 

 

 

It’ time to look after yourself

One of my favorite parts of New Years is throwing away the old calendar and getting to start anew. All the hopes, dreams, and fantasies of a new life seem so tangible at New Years, don’t they?

Well, have I got news for you.

According to a survey by Reuters only a measly 3% of people actually follow through with their big New Year’s resolutions. And psychologists believe that this failure to follow through on bold and brilliant New Year’s resolutions by 97% of us can actually lead to diminished self esteem and lack of motivation in the months to come.

Does this mean that the remaining 97% of us who threw ideas in the till for positive change are all losers who cannot commit to anything? Absolutely not! 

One of the reasons I ceased making resolutions is quite simply because I don’t believe that there is one specific day so enlightened that you can change your entire world in the blink of an eye. I don’t believe that putting all your eggs in the New Year’s basket is necessarily the best way to make changes in your life. Truth is, you can blow in the winds of change any day of week, any month of the year, any hour of the day – if you so choose.

I DO believe that New Years should be a time of reflection. What was the last year like for me? What are the things I did right? What are the things I did wrong? Where is there room for improvement and positive change? What are some of the things I would like to continue to do? What am I proud of, and what do I wish I could change? Am I living the best life possible, and if not – what are three simple changes I could make to head in that direction?

To me, the New Year is about taking inventory and making a plan. Not just a firm resolution which you are certain to break; that you will never again sink your teeth into a sugary donut, or guzzle down an ice-cold Coca Cola on a hot summer day – but a plan that you will eat two less donuts per week, and only enjoy one soda every other day.

Why set yourself up to fail? The last thing you want to do is to feel like a deflated balloon.

Instead, start slowly by asking yourself the questions above. Write down your answers and take baby steps toward achieving your goals. The expression “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” rings true when it comes to the beginning of the New Year – and nothing in your life should be all or nothing. If it is, chances are you are setting yourself up to feel guilty or bad down the road.

So in light of this we are sharing everything we have on offer for you at the centre, we have drop in classes if you feel like you can’t commit to one of our full time classes and we have weekend workshops that I am sure you will find is calling out to you.
Just follow the links below for our workshops and classes and start with baby steps on the right path for you.
www.riverholistic.ie/classes
www.riverholistic.ie/workshops

5 Small Steps for Improving Your Self Esteem

Five Small Steps For Improving Your Self Esteem

 

Your self-esteem is a delicate creature. It can be damaged by many things – a break up of a relationship, a change in life or work circumstances – any dent in your sense of identity can leave you feeling less yourself and cause you to suffer a loss of self confidence.

Some people are naturally more self-confident than others, and for some, like myself, it doesn’t take much at all to leave you questioning yourself and your life choices.

When your confidence is at an all time low, it can be difficult to think of practical steps to make you feel better. The natural reaction to pain is for you to withdraw to protect yourself, and so you may begin to pull away from socialising or situations that put you at risk from feeling even worse. When you’re feeling at your lowest and most delicate, it’s all about taking small steps to make an overall big difference.

The WORST thing you can do is to push yourself too hard, and try to make big changes all at once. When you’re delicate, any knock is going to be felt even more acutely, sending you flying back in the opposite direction.

Start small by trying some of the following things.

1. Try Something New

It may seem like the opposite of what you want to do when you’re not feeling good about yourself, but gaining knowledge or learning a new skill can actually make us feel a lot better about ourselves. Learning new things has been found to be a core need for psychological wellbeing. This doesn’t necessarily mean throwing yourself in the deep end and learning something like kite surfing or mountaineering – even something like an online course, or local exercise class can make you feel better about yourself, and introduce you to new people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.

  1. Positive Self-Talk

We are generally not very good at talking ourselves up. We feel embarrassed to admit that we’re any good at anything, and yet we know that we are our own worst enemy.

So, just for a minute, leave the modesty at the gate, and try this psychiatry endorsed “brainwashing” technique to see if it makes a difference. Making a list of 5 things that you love about yourself and reviewing this list daily for one month, has been proven to have a positive effect on self image and self esteem.

 

  1. Take Care of Yourself

When you’re thinking negatively about yourself, it can be easy to fall into a pattern of self- neglect. Taking care of your physical self is the first step to repairing your mental wellbeing. Try simple things such as making yourself healthy, delicious dinners, or making sure that you go out for a long walk every day. Exercise has also been consistently found to improve mood, and your overall self- confidence.  Make taking care of yourself a priority rather than an afterthought

  1. Be Kind to Yourself – Spend time doing things you enjoy.

Think about what you would do for a friend if they were feeling down. Would you force them to start on their to-do list, or tell them they need to ‘pull themselves together and sort themselves out!’. No – of course you wouldn’t! You’d spend some time with them, listening and doing something that they wanted to do, like go for a coffee, or a walk, or to the cinema. Treat yourself like you would treat a friend. Allowing ourselves time to do the things we enjoy is another important act of self-love, it signals that we respect ourselves enough to allow ourselves happiness. Once our mind is clearer, we can concentrate on the more ‘pressing issues’ of the day.

  1. Help Others

The Dali Lama was certainly on the right track when he said “Our prime purpose in life is to help others”.

Sometimes when we are thinking negatively about ourselves, it can help to focus our attention outward by helping other people. Not only does this distract us from the negative self-talk in our heads, but as a result of helping others, our own self-esteem increases. Psychologists have discovered a direct link between volunteering and levels of self esteem. I’m not talking about saving the world, but a few hours spent a week volunteering for a charity, or even popping round to see an elderly neighbour can have huge mutually beneficial benefits!

We have some amazing talk therapists in house if you feel like you need someone to talk to.

Dr. Zuleika Daly

Tomas West

Grainne Jordan

 

 

 

Source: Huffington Post UK

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