• +01-8310888
  • info@riverholistic.ie

exam stress

5 Small Steps for Improving Your Self Esteem

Five Small Steps For Improving Your Self Esteem

 

Your self-esteem is a delicate creature. It can be damaged by many things – a break up of a relationship, a change in life or work circumstances – any dent in your sense of identity can leave you feeling less yourself and cause you to suffer a loss of self confidence.

Some people are naturally more self-confident than others, and for some, like myself, it doesn’t take much at all to leave you questioning yourself and your life choices.

When your confidence is at an all time low, it can be difficult to think of practical steps to make you feel better. The natural reaction to pain is for you to withdraw to protect yourself, and so you may begin to pull away from socialising or situations that put you at risk from feeling even worse. When you’re feeling at your lowest and most delicate, it’s all about taking small steps to make an overall big difference.

The WORST thing you can do is to push yourself too hard, and try to make big changes all at once. When you’re delicate, any knock is going to be felt even more acutely, sending you flying back in the opposite direction.

Start small by trying some of the following things.

1. Try Something New

It may seem like the opposite of what you want to do when you’re not feeling good about yourself, but gaining knowledge or learning a new skill can actually make us feel a lot better about ourselves. Learning new things has been found to be a core need for psychological wellbeing. This doesn’t necessarily mean throwing yourself in the deep end and learning something like kite surfing or mountaineering – even something like an online course, or local exercise class can make you feel better about yourself, and introduce you to new people you wouldn’t have met otherwise.

  1. Positive Self-Talk

We are generally not very good at talking ourselves up. We feel embarrassed to admit that we’re any good at anything, and yet we know that we are our own worst enemy.

So, just for a minute, leave the modesty at the gate, and try this psychiatry endorsed “brainwashing” technique to see if it makes a difference. Making a list of 5 things that you love about yourself and reviewing this list daily for one month, has been proven to have a positive effect on self image and self esteem.

 

  1. Take Care of Yourself

When you’re thinking negatively about yourself, it can be easy to fall into a pattern of self- neglect. Taking care of your physical self is the first step to repairing your mental wellbeing. Try simple things such as making yourself healthy, delicious dinners, or making sure that you go out for a long walk every day. Exercise has also been consistently found to improve mood, and your overall self- confidence.  Make taking care of yourself a priority rather than an afterthought

  1. Be Kind to Yourself – Spend time doing things you enjoy.

Think about what you would do for a friend if they were feeling down. Would you force them to start on their to-do list, or tell them they need to ‘pull themselves together and sort themselves out!’. No – of course you wouldn’t! You’d spend some time with them, listening and doing something that they wanted to do, like go for a coffee, or a walk, or to the cinema. Treat yourself like you would treat a friend. Allowing ourselves time to do the things we enjoy is another important act of self-love, it signals that we respect ourselves enough to allow ourselves happiness. Once our mind is clearer, we can concentrate on the more ‘pressing issues’ of the day.

  1. Help Others

The Dali Lama was certainly on the right track when he said “Our prime purpose in life is to help others”.

Sometimes when we are thinking negatively about ourselves, it can help to focus our attention outward by helping other people. Not only does this distract us from the negative self-talk in our heads, but as a result of helping others, our own self-esteem increases. Psychologists have discovered a direct link between volunteering and levels of self esteem. I’m not talking about saving the world, but a few hours spent a week volunteering for a charity, or even popping round to see an elderly neighbour can have huge mutually beneficial benefits!

We have some amazing talk therapists in house if you feel like you need someone to talk to.

Dr. Zuleika Daly

Tomas West

Grainne Jordan

 

 

 

Source: Huffington Post UK

May Newsletter

Welcome to the May edition of our Newsletter.

Hello,

Hard to believe we are getting close to our 4th Birthday.  Some of you have been here since I had a little dream of opening a Holistic Centre, some of you I have had the pleasure working with on this incredible journey and to our amazing clients, because of you, River Holistic Centre has grown from a dream to a reality.
Being a Holistic Home to over 20+ therapists, 10+ in house teachers, 20+ guest lectures and trainers and over 1000 regular clients.
In the past 4 years we have won multiple awards in Holistic Health and customer service.
For this I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

With all of the success that is our Holistic Home, I have decided to add an extension to our bustling centre.  In the coming weeks, I will be opening a brand new space called the River Room.
The River Room will be a new home for a large selection of classes, which will include beginners Pilate’s, yoga teacher training, further education training, sound healing, drumming circles, a meeting space for people looking for head space.
If you are a teacher or trainer looking for a new space, I would love to have a chat and see if you would like to join our family.

So until the next time.
See you soon

Claire xx

READ MORE

Exam Stress and how to help.

Exam Stress and how to help.

 

With exam season around the corner, help-lines, psychologists and psychiatrists have seen a rise in students battling exam-related stress disorders. It is observed that many children go into a panic mode during examinations and suddenly find that they can’t recall the information that they have learned, or suffer from “brain block”. During exam time, it may be impossible to avoid stress altogether, however there are several things you can do to help alleviate as much stress as possible. For instance, boosting children’s confidence and self-belief, helping them let go of anxiety over things they have no control over, and helping them take some time to relax!

The examination season is marked with sky-high stress levels, anxiety, pressure and tension on part of both the students as well as the parents. Parents often feel like it is them who are appearing for examination instead of the child. Lives begin to revolve around a flurry of tuition’s and tuition teachers, strict time-tables and academics. We as parents believe examinations to be the most important aspect of a child’s life to the exclusion of everything else and pass this message along with the tension to our wards as well.

Some of the symptoms, such as depression, not interacting with others, decrease in sleep and appetite, fatigue and lack of concentration, are indications that a person may need some external help. It is a difficult task for a parent to convey to their children the importance of exams while making sure that they do not add to their children’s stress and at the same time handle their own personal anxiety as well.

Parents have a huge role to play in managing exam stress in children, especially in today’s world of cut-throat competition and pressure on children to perform. It is natural for a parent to expect his/her child to achieve good results and perform better. They also become anxious about their child’s performance in examinations for getting admission into that elusive college/university. However, one of the most important lessons we need our children to learn is that success is a process, not a destination and that it has many definitions, academic results is just one of many definitions of it.

A few options that are available for both you and your children are at the centre are:

 

  • We have a Mindfulness for Teens class starting on Thursday the 27th of April, which runs for 6 weeks.
  • Drop in Mindfulness and Meditation for adults, both morning and evening options available.
  • Reflexology sessions, for both Parent and Child
  • Hypnotherapy (Once Child is over 16)
  • Talk therapy

 

New Hatha Yoga Class.

We are very excited to now be offering Hatha Yoga at the Centre.  This new class will be starting on the Monday the 27th of April and it may be just what you were looking for.

Hatha yoga refers to the joining and harmonising of the two main energies within us- the masculine or sun energy and the feminine or moon energy.  It is essential to understand and flow with these energies as we find a balance between doing (masculine) and allowing or receiving (feminine). Within this class we will draw upon the practice of asana (postures), pranayama (breath work) and shavasana (deep relaxation), whilst accessing the subtle energies of the chakra system.

This Hatha yoga class will focus on increasing flexibility and strength, whilst enabling the body to soften, open and relax.  The word yoga itself refers to the oneness or union of our being, and the practice in this class will focus upon creating a greater sense of harmony between the physical body, the emotions, thoughts and energetic layers of our being.

As we move through asana (postures) we invoke the power of the breath and activate the chakras to enable us to grow and evolve in our daily life, learning tools and techniques to bring us back into a deeper place of balance, both on and off the mat.

This class is appropriate for complete beginners to more advanced students, as modifications will be incorporated to enable each student to practice at their own unique level.

Places will be limited to 8 people, and must be pre-booked / pre-paid with either a deposit or full payment.

New 4 class term: Monday from 6 – 7.15pm (75 minutes) on the 24th of April, 8th, 15th & 22nd of May- 4 weeks (no class May 1st).

4 class term costs €55, or drop in classes are €16 (space dependent).

www.riverholistic.ie/classes 

1